Open with a micro-contract: purpose, timebox, and desired outcome. Ask, “What would be genuinely useful in ten minutes?” Name the boundaries, especially what will not be discussed. Acknowledge power dynamics explicitly to reduce guessing. When both parties feel seen and respected, attention can move from self-protection to exploration. This small ritual converts a hurried meeting into a focused collaboration with shared responsibility for clarity and progress.
Speed is not squeezing; it is sequencing. Use a flexible structure—two minutes for context, three for observations, three for questioning, two for commitment—yet allow compassionate slippage when emotions surface. State the timer aloud and park tangents without shaming curiosity. The visible cadence reduces cognitive load and creates rhythm, so neither person hoards airtime. Over time, the structure becomes muscle memory, freeing more attention for nuance, empathy, and actionable detail.
Fast moments invite fast judgments. Begin with a bias reset: name assumptions, separate observations from interpretations, and admit incentives that might distort your view. Invite correction early by asking, “What am I missing?” This lowers defensiveness by modeling humility. When the receiver mirrors the move—naming their own protective stories—the conversation gains honesty. Ego does not disappear, but it stops steering. That shift makes brief sessions surprisingly deep and constructive.
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